Beth and I used to attend an annual event in Middlebury, Vermont called Woofstock. Woofstock sponsored by the Addison County Humane Society for dog owners with booths, demonstrations and games for kids with pets. It was a fun event. When my hound mix, Rex, was young, maybe about two years old, I entered him in their "best dog" contest. You'd march your dog, mostly with other mutts from the shelter, around in a circle while employees of the shelter would ask you why your dog is the "best dog." I could not even comprehend why I would have to prove he was the best dog ... of course, he was the best dog. He was my dog, just look at him.
Of course Rex did not win the best dog contest. It went to some lame dog who did tricks unlike Rex who just sat there and looked beautiful. It is still very obvious to me that he was indeed the "best" dog. We don't go to Woofstock anymore.
It wasn't until 2001, when Beth and I bought our first house that we finally got our dog. We had our eye on Rex early in 2001 at the Franklin County Humane Society in St. Albans, Vermont. He was a hound mix puppy, about five months old, mostly Rhodesian Ridgeback, we think. We knew we were closing on our house in a month so we ask if we could put a hold on him. They told us "NO" understandably, but we were disappointed. In a few days he was adopted by another family. We closed on our house a few weeks later in April and the very next day we drove back to the Humane Society to finally, after a few decades of wanting a dog, to get our first dog. We were very excited. When we got there we discovered Rex in one of their kennel cages. He had been returned by the family that had adopted him. So our conclusion was ... this is our dog. We had a fleeting belief in destiny. I still remember driving home in our '92 Corolla with Rex in the backseat, seeing him in the rear view mirror, thinking "that's my dog."
The idea of dog ownership is an odd one. For one, a dog is 99.8 % genetically identical to a wolf and we bring them into our houses and trust them, some of them more than other members of our families. After centuries of breeding we have bred out the .2% of wildness to have an amazing relationship, one unlike any other. But it is a relationship, not ownership. I didn't own Rex, I loved him. Perhaps for legal circumstances, we have to use the term "own" but it is not right. Any dog "owner" will tell you, ownership is something we use for objects, like cars and blankets, not for members of your family.
Rex had his problems: he had fear aggression, he barked a lot, he bit at least three people, he was relentless at begging for food and counter-surfing. For the past decade, the word "Rex" was probably the one word I have said loudly or in anger more often than any other word. Now that he has gone, I have done so twice already totally out of habit. But none of these things matter to what he brought us in the category of joy, companionship and laughter. He was cuddly and sweet. He was great on hike. We'd let him off-leash and run ahead and always stop and look back then wait for us. His tail was amazing; there exists no better barometer for joy than a hound's tail. He'd wag whenever you said his name. It was a great day when we discovered if you said the word "REd soX," slowly, he'd wag away. He protected the house. He loved the car. We'd always joke that everytime he got in the car, he thought he was going on a trip to Patten, Maine or Jekyl Island, Georgia. These are two places he particularly loved. He'd lick your feet while you were relaxing at the end of the day. He'd dance with me when I played G. Love's "Rodeo Clown." The thing I may miss the most is how he greeted me when I hadn't seen him in a long time. He jump up in excitement, wagging and barking. You've never see a happier creature than when I pick him up at a dog sitter's house. Surely, I was not worthy of this much love.