Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Please Let Me Know If You Voted for Trump So That I Can Stop Being Your Friend

I may know who some of you are, but since I was not in the voting booth with you, if you are a friend of mine please let me know me know if you voted for Trump. I need to stop being your friend. This is something that I have been thinking about for a while. At some point, it occurred to me that some of the people I care for supported this man for the Presidency of the United States of America. Arguing about the subject stopped yesterday.

I never liked Trump. I only thought he looked like a fool and was an extremely privileged man but I didn't give him much thought at all.  But, like everyone else, I've gotten to know him since he started running for president. I have grown to know him as a white supremacist, a misogynist and a fear monger. Also, his vice president, Mike Pence, believes that homosexuality is a sickness. I am writing this today, the morning after the election. I have many emotions. None of them are positive.

I feel angry that I live in a country that is far more racist and misogynist than I thought. I feel anxiety as what this means for our future, for our Supreme Court, for our environment, but mostly for my friends. Oh not for the friends that voted for Trump, but for my black friends, for my Hispanic friends, for my Muslim friends and gay friends. This morning I see a lot of grief. I see friends reaching out for immigration lawyers because they fear for the status of a loved one. I see people wondering what to tell their kids, now that we have a president that hates them or hates their friends.  Mostly I see people who are scared and you, who voted for Trump, caused this.

Perhaps I should have acted earlier. Perhaps I should have been more clear earlier how unacceptable your behavior was. I apologize if I wasn't more clear but here I am now and .... I am through with you.

I am not being a sore loser. If we were in 4th grade, this term might apply. We are adults and I have been through many elections where my candidate lost. I was a big supported of Al Gore in the 2000 election. You didn't disgust me when you supported W; we simply disagreed. It is not a matter of just disliking Trump. It is a matter of him representing everything that is wrong with the world: ignorance, hate, unchecked privilege, fear mongering and animosity among others. If you want this person to be the most power person on the planet, then obviously you were not the person I thought you were when we made friends. 

You don't have to make a drama about.  Just drop me a line if you voted for Trump.  I promise you it will be quick and we won't ever have to talk to each other again.


Olga Hebert said...

We can still be friends. I don't understand this election at all.

Mark Peloquin said...

In the last two and a half years, Trump has retweeted the Twitter comments of white supremacist groups approximately 75 times. If he had done this once, I would forgiven him and say okay that was a mistake. If he had done this ten times, I'd be very confused and concerned. 75 times to me means that he is a white supremacist.

Now you could say that I can remain friends with people that voted for a white supremacist for the most powerful job on the planet ... sure. But I choose not to. I have higher standards and expectations for my friends than that.